How to Squirt: 10 Eye-Opening Facts About Female Ejaculation

Squirting, or female ejaculation, is one of the most mysterious and fascinating phenomena in the world of sexual pleasure. Yet, it’s often misunderstood, surrounded by myths and confusion. If you’re curious about this experience, you’re not alone—many people seek to understand more about what squirting is, how it happens, and how they can experience it for themselves. In this guide, we’ll go into the truth about squirting, explore the female anatomy responsible for wet pleasure, and give you the tools for a fulfilling squirting experience. Let's embark on this sensual journey together. 

But first things first. Technically speaking, female ejaculation and squirting aren’t exactly the same—there are subtle differences in the amount of fluid released and its exact origin. However, in practice, we don’t separate them, as both begin with arousal, stimulation, and fluid buildup in the female prostate (Skene’s glands). Curious about the specifics? Read more about the key differences here.

Squirting Isn’t Pee

This is one of the most common misconceptions. While the fluid is expelled through the urethra, squirting is not the same as urine. It’s actually a mixture of fluids, primarily originating from the female prostate (Skene’s glands). Some may contain trace amounts of urine, but this is minimal and completely natural. The ejaculate is a different substance, with a unique composition of proteins and enzymes, including prostate-specific antigen (PSA), which is also found in male prostate fluid. Understanding this distinction can help you feel more confident in your body’s natural response to pleasure. 

What’s Inside the Fluid?

The fluid produced during female ejaculation comes directly from the female prostate, located around the urethra. It’s rich in enzymes, proteins, and other substances, including PSA, which is closely associated with male ejaculate. Some studies suggest that this fluid may even have antibacterial properties, offering protection for the urethra during sexual activity. This makes the fluid not only a pleasurable experience but potentially beneficial in its own right.

In cases where a more copious amount of fluid is released during squirting, the liquid can contain traces of urea, as it often mixes with the contents of the bladder before being expelled. This doesn’t make it urine—it's a unique blend that originates from the female prostate and may be stored briefly in the bladder before release. It’s unique to your body, and embracing this fluid as part of your sexual expression can enhance both your confidence and enjoyment.

Target the Female Prostate for the Best Chance

If you’re hoping to experience squirting, one of the most important steps is learning to stimulate the right area: the female prostate, also known as the Skene’s glands. This is the source of the fluid released during squirting and is closely connected to what’s commonly referred to as the G-spot. Applying firm, consistent pressure to this area—whether with your fingers or a toy designed for G-spot stimulation—can help build the kind of internal sensation that leads to ejaculation.

It’s a journey of sensual exploration: discovering the exact location, pressure, and rhythm that feel best to your unique body. Interestingly, the shape and positioning of the female prostate can vary from person to person. Some may have a prostate that sits closer to the vaginal opening, while others may have tissue that extends further back toward the bladder. There are even four distinct anatomical variations of the female prostate.

Curious about which one you might have? Learn more about these shapes and how to work with your body’s design in our complete guide.

Squirting Doesn’t Always Mean Orgasm

It’s a common misconception that squirting always accompanies orgasm. While these two experiences can certainly coincide, they are not the same thing. Female ejaculation, or squirting, is a physical response to stimulation of the female prostate, whereas an orgasm is the release of built-up sexual tension. While both experiences are intensely pleasurable, they can occur independently of each other. Understanding this distinction can help you embrace squirting without any expectations of having to orgasm at the same time.

Squirting Can Happen Before, During, or After Orgasm

Another misconception is that squirting can only occur during orgasm, but it can actually happen at any point during sexual activity. Whether it happens before, during, or after orgasm doesn’t matter—it’s all part of your body’s natural response to pleasurable stimulation. Some women may find that they trickle or gush before orgasm, while others might experience it afterward. Each body is different, and the key is to stay relaxed and open to the experience.

Small Amounts Are Normal

Don’t stress over the amount of fluid you release. The volume of ejaculate varies from person to person, and some women may barely notice and release only a few drops, while others may experience a more substantial flow. There’s no “right” or “wrong” amount—what matters is the pleasurable sensations of release not the quantity. Every body is unique, and the goal is to embrace the experience without focusing on the amount. The pleasure is what counts.

Learning to Squirt Takes Time

Patience is key when it comes to squirting. Just like any new skill, it takes time to learn how your body responds. It’s not about rushing or expecting instant results. Some women may find it happening right away, but for many, it’s a process of getting comfortable with new sensations. You might feel like you have to pee, and that can be a little intimidating at first. But with time, you’ll learn to recognize those feelings and let go of the fear. It’s all about experimenting, exploring, and tuning in to what feels good—allowing yourself to get comfortable with your body’s responses. Don’t stress if it takes a while. As you relax, learn, and trust yourself, the experience will become more natural and more pleasurable. The less you’re focused on chasing waterfalls, the more you’ll find yourself becoming one

There’s Nothing to Be Ashamed Of

Squirting is a natural, healthy response to stimulation of the female prostate, and there’s absolutely no reason to feel embarrassed about it. Embrace it as part of your unique sexual experience. Societal taboos may make it feel like something to hide, but in reality, it’s just another beautiful way your body can express pleasure. Don’t let shame or self-judgment get in the way of your sexual freedom. Celebrate your body and the many ways it can experience pleasure.

Relaxation is Key

Relaxation is key to squirting. When you're stressed or tense, your body can't fully respond to pleasure. Activating your parasympathetic nervous system—the "rest and digest" system—is essential for letting go. To do this, create a calm environment: dim the lights, play soft music, and focus on deep breathing. This helps reduce stress hormones and encourages your body to relax, making it easier for fluid to release. The more at ease you are, the more your body will respond naturally to stimulation. Let go of pressure, and the experience will unfold on its own.

Your Worth Doesn’t Depend on Squirting

Squirting is just one of many ways your body can respond to pleasure, and whether or not it happens doesn’t define your worth or sexual value. It doesn’t make you better at sex—though it can make you feel more connected to your body and in control of your pleasure. If squirting happens for you, awesome! If not, that’s totally fine too. Your body is deserving of love, pleasure, and respect, regardless of how it expresses itself. Squirting isn’t a measure of sexual skill—it's simply another way to experience the unique responses your body can offer.

HOW TO SQUIRT: TIPS & TOOLS

If you're ready to experience squirting and the powerful physical release that comes with it, here are some tips and tools to help guide you on your journey. Squirting is a deeply intimate and sensual experience that requires the right approach, patience, presence, and a lot of practice. These tips will help you connect with your body, enhance your pleasure, and fully embrace this natural response.

Start with Female Prostate Stimulation

To learn squirting, you will needto locate, stimulate and activate the female prostate. This area is accessed through the G-spot, and applying firm, rhythmic pressure here is essential. You can use your fingers or, for a more targeted approach, toys specifically designed for G-spot stimulation, such as these Onna Pleasure Wands that are specifically designed for G-spot stimulation. These toys are curved to deliver precise pressure to the female prostate, helping to trigger squirting when used properly.

Take Your Time and Build Sensuality

Don’t rush. Squirting isn’t something that can be forced—it’s a natural response that takes time to cultivate. Set a sensual environment where you can explore your body’s responses. Take deep breaths, relax, and focus on building arousal slowly. Let the sensations come gradually, paying attention to how your body reacts as you experiment with different types of touch and pressure.

Use Lubrication for Comfort

Lubrication is key to a smooth, comfortable squirting experience. Adequate lube ensures smooth G-spot stimulation, reducing friction and making the experience more pleasurable. Don’t skimp—apply enough to keep things gliding effortlessly and help you focus on the sensations, not any discomfort. We always recommend using natural, vagina-friendly lubricants to keep things as gentle and safe as possible..

Find the Right Rhythm

Every person’s body is different, and the pressure and rhythm that works best for you may vary. Experiment with light strokes, circular strokes, deep thrusts, or steady pressure. You may find that alternating between light and deep pressure creates the perfect rhythm to trigger your squirting response. Be mindful of how your body reacts and adjust accordingly.

Focus on Deep Breathing and Relaxation

Deep breathing can help you relax, get into your body and focus on the sensations in your body. Inhale slowly, filling your lungs completely, then exhale gently, letting go of any lingering tension. With every breath, imagine yourself shedding any pressure, judgment, or the expectation that something has to happen. Let your body soften, and feel yourself melt into the experience.

Try Pleasure Wands Designed for G-Spot Stimulation

There are pleasure wands specifically designed to apply gentle yet firm pressure to the G-spot and female prostate, which is the key to unlocking the squirting experience. According to Deborah Sundahl, the “godmother of squirting,” the bulbous end of a pleasure wand like the obsidian Pearl or the stainless steel Drop is the most effective shape for stimulating the female prostate, as it applies the right amount of pressure and engages the area in the most natural way. The curved shape of Onna G-spot wands ensures that you hit the right spots, offering targeted stimulation where you need it most. This precision, paired with the ergonomic design, not only enhances comfort but also allows you to fully focus on your pleasure without being distracted by technique. 

Use the “Push” Technique

As you begin to feel that rising urge to release, a gentle, relaxed pushing motion can help encourage the fluid's release. But don't strain or push too hard. While most guides may recommend a strong "bear down" action, similar to the feeling of going to the bathroom or giving birth, applying too much pressure can do more harm than good. Straining too forcefully can put unnecessary stress on your pelvic floor muscles, potentially weakening them over time.

The goal is to stay relaxed and listen to your body. Instead of forcing it, try a light, controlled push when you're nearing the peak sensation. It's all about gentle pressure and allowing your body to open and release naturally, without any strain.

Ready to Learn How to Squirt?
If you're ready to go beyond the basics and truly experience squirting, our Complete Step-by-Step Guide to Female Ejaculation will change the game for you. Whether this is your first time exploring or you’re looking to take your pleasure to new heights, we’ve got everything you need.

Our guide dives deep into specific techniques to help you find and activate your G-spot, build up that fluid, and discover the sensations that lead to release. We’re not just talking about “how to”—we’re talking practices that actually work.