Men Reveal Their Most Memorable Sexual Experiences

We’ve been sharing answers from a series of questions we asked men about love, sex, intimacy, and relationships.Today, we’re diving into their answers to this intriguing question:

"What was the best sexual experience you have had in your life, and why do you think it was the best?"

It’s essential to recognize that everyone is different, and what one person finds fulfilling or enjoyable might not be the same for another. Sexual experiences are deeply personal, shaped by individual desires, emotions, and connections. One person’s “best” experience may be rooted in physical pleasure, while someone else may find intimacy, trust, or vulnerability to be the key elements that make a sexual experience unforgettable. What works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another, and that’s part of what makes understanding and communication so crucial in relationships.

Now, let’s dive into the diverse responses from men who shared their most memorable sexual experiences.

"I am 45 years old. There are moments in life to describe the best. The meaning of 'best' differs over time. In my younger age, it could be having a sexual relationship with your partner (first oral, first anal). Later, as time goes on, enjoying long sex with your partner using Tantra Rituals feels better. The best for me is seeing my partner shake with pleasure as I cum."

"I met a girl online, and I traveled abroad to meet her. For me, it was the perfect combination of beauty, shyness, and love. Two strangers 'dancing while making love.' It was one of the rare moments when nothing else existed in the world except her and me."

"One night with my girlfriend at the beginning of our relationship… it was so intense! We were all sweaty… there was fluid everywhere, we were loud and passionate! I think it was the best because our brains were off, and we were in the present moment without shame, living this moment."

"I only had one sexual partner and have been married to my soulmate for 20 years. I feel like it is always the best experience, although I can’t compare and don’t want to compare."

"A threesome I had in college is probably the most memorable because it was new, and I climaxed multiple times. But the most memorable experience was in a bathtub, getting a blowjob from my wife, and she came by touching herself at the same time. She moaned around my cock."

"My best sexual experience was one of the first with a girl I truly knew, liked, and who was astonishingly beautiful. I think it was the best because she truly liked sex; it was never a taboo. We loved and desired each other, so there was mutual trust, no shame at all. I was eager to have her body in my hands, eager to please her, but as I knew her, I also knew I could take pleasure myself, even if it meant I would be less performant. The most important thing was that we knew we were doing it to please each other, not to impress the other or as a duty."

"That's a tough question. There are many memories of awesome experiences, and I think some of the best sexual experiences are the ones where I could check off some boxes on my bucket list. But the very best sexual experience is every sexual experience because I am able to have sexual experiences and am having fun doing them. Very importantly, the other person(s) involved are having fun too! Having fun together is superior to having fun alone.

Okay, if you want a very specific experience: Sex while high on MDMA with my current partner. Everything felt much more intense, times it by a factor of 10."

"Hard to say, but I think it's got to be my first. I was hitchhiking around New Zealand, and after a few nights of intense sexual tension, we decided to have a go! Sounds very romantic, but halfway through, this dude showed up to mow the lawns, and we were in a tent hiding in the bushes in a public park with no fly, so you could see right through the tent. I was very surprised we didn’t get caught. It made for a romantic but goofy, risky, and funny experience. A combination of all of that, plus the exploration and learning new things, lived up to the much-anticipated expectation."

"The woman I lost my virginity to. We had an amazing sexual relationship and chemistry. There was no awkwardness. She let me blindfold her, and I was driven by lust for the first time. It wasn’t solely penetration; it was erotic and pure."

"With my partner, we went on a hike to a hidden beach. We spent the day walking, getting to know more about each other. We found a small cave that led us into a small beach. We had sex with a lot of touch and emotion that brought us closer to each other. For a moment, we fused into one collective soul."

"It’s really hard to say; there isn’t one that stands out above the rest. I dated a girl in college who was all about fulfilling fantasies, so some of those were a lot of fun. But to be honest, the older I get (I’m 40), the more I realize that great sex has as much to do with the connection between people as it has to do with what I want. So, to that end, I would say sex with my wife on our honeymoon, after all of the excitement, when all of our vulnerabilities were just laid out and exposed and celebrated."

"It was with my ex, aka my high school sweetheart, before we got back together after not being together for 5 years and having to be on and off before that for about 8 years. I was driving; I don't know exactly where we were going, but we had a deep conversation that led to kissing, me playing with her breasts, to just pulling over in a random neighborhood. I started fingering her, then went down on her, and it turned me on so much to see her enjoying herself. It was like a euphoric feeling when it was my turn. Something about her letting me take control… when she went down on me, I’d never grunted before, but it was a climax I’d never experienced. Mentally, I felt this connection, and when we both finished, we were both shocked (like, 'what just happened?')."

"A few years ago, my partner at the time, while we were kissing, wrapped her legs around me and pulled me inside of her without a condom. She was not on any birth control, so we only went like that for a bit before I got a condom. But her wanting me inside her so much to not care in the moment was really hot. To this day, the memory of that still turns me on."

"I think the best sexual experience I’ve ever had was while I was going down on my partner at the time. Her orgasm and changes in breathing, and all that was happening, made me cum without anything touching me, just from her reaction to oral sex. It’s the best because that day I realized that I can orgasm just from being so turned on by giving someone pleasure. It’s when I realized pleasuring someone gets me off all the way around. I love giving gifts, I love helping people. I’m a giver, and I’m happy with that. It’s not so kinky, but it’s my kink."

"I don't think I have one specific experience. However, there was a night that stands out for me; it was slow—there was music, candles, and we were so fully connected for such a long time that it was utterly magic. If it was the best, it’s because it transcended into a different level of connection beyond what I have known. Tender, deeply loving, and connected to our hearts and bodies."

"Abstaining (but edging) for a month prior to a weekend sex getaway. A month of anticipation made it the best."

"Alone on Valentine's Day, I matched with an older woman. We got a picnic and made our way to a secluded dam near the city. We drank wine, skinny-dipped, and had sex on the shore of the dam. Also, my first experience with a prolific squirter... delicious."

"The first time I had sex with my wife. Feeling that our bodies fit perfectly together. It's a very good memory. And also the first time I experienced a blowjob in my life. Wow, that was a great feeling."

"Some of my early sexual experiences with my wife are the best. I was coming out of a failed marriage with little sexual experience. I learned with my current wife how deep the connection could be and what sex could bring to my soul and how much it would deepen our love."

Have you also noticed that the best sexual experiences often aren’t defined by the act itself, but by the deep emotional connection, trust, and vulnerability shared between partners? Whether it’s the first time with someone special, a spontaneous romantic moment, or an intimate connection that goes beyond just physical pleasure, these memories tend to stay with us. It's often not just about the physical sensations—it's about the bond you create, the feeling of truly being seen and understood by someone else.