Butt plugs for beginners
For many people, heterosexual, gay, or bisexual, the anus is a major pleasure spot. YES, anal penetration can be extremely pleasurable, even mind-blowing, when done right and with the right partner. Many women may experience orgasm from the pressure stimulating the A-spot, the G-spot, and the internal parts of the clitoris. Prostate stimulation can feel absolutely mind-blowing for men.
The best way to start exploring the world of anal pleasures is by experimenting on your own with anal toys and plugs.
What are butt plugs?
A butt plug is a sex toy designed to be placed inside the anus for sexual pleasure. Anyone regardless of gender and orientation can use them to enhance their pleasure experience.
Butt plugs are primarily used in two ways:
- To help dilate, loosen, and relax the muscles before or in preparation for penetrative anal sex.
- For increased pleasure and heightened orgasm during partnered sex and self-pleasure.
There is a variety of butt plugs on the market. Always ensure you buy from a reputable seller and avoid anything sold on Amazon or eBay. Also, avoid cheap, mass-produced coloured glass toys that are unlikely to be properly annealed.
The base is the most important thing to look out for when selecting a butt plug. It should be wider than the insertable part of the plug so it doesn't go all the way in.
The main rule of inserting a butt plug is to go super slooooow and use a lot of lubricant.
First, go to the bathroom if you have to. You probably won't feel comfortable when you are feeling full. Wash if you have to. You don't need to go for a thorough enema, but feeling clean will make the experience much better.
Make sure your body and mind feel relaxed. You will want to have enough time for yourself and not feel rushed. The more relaxed and comfortable you are, the easier and more pleasurable you will find it. You might want to arouse yourself and masturbate first before trying to insert a butt plug.
Once you feel ready, apply enough lubricant. Don't worry about using too much.
The excess will just drip off. When it comes to anal pleasure, it's always better to use more lube than less.
Next, you want to be in a comfortable position. Some prefer getting down on all fours (doggy style), others like being on their back with the butt raised on a pillow or squatting.
Before you insert the plug, use your well lubricated finger to gently massage the area around your anus. Start with a light touch to help the anus relax. Try slowly inserting just a fingertip (make sure you have short nails). Give yourself and your anus enough time to adjust to the sensation.
The anus is built very differently compared to the vagina. The anus is at the end of the anal canal that connects the anus and the rectum. The rectum is the final part of the large intestine.
The anal canal is about 3-4 cm and has two muscle sphincters, ring-shaped muscles. The external or outer sphincter is at the anus and is the one you consciously relax when opening your bowels. The internal sphincter is a muscle that is involuntary and only relaxes when the body wants to open up. This is the reason why you should never rush anal penetration. In contrast, the vagina is a muscular, elastic tube, but its opening is not controlled by a sphincter in the same way as the anus.
Compared to the vagina, the anus can take more time to relax and take in an object. It is important to spend sufficient time warming up and relaxing the area before attempting to penetrate it with a finger, toy, or penis.
Only when you feel ready start slowly inserting the butt plug. Once it is inside, it may feel a bit strange, but as long as you're not feeling pain, it is just your body adjusting. Take deep breaths and try to relax. Once you feel comfortable, you can continue self-pleasuring.
If you feel any pain, remove the plug immediately. Your muscles may not be relaxed enough yet. When you are removing the butt plug, stick to the same principles. Go slow, with no jerky movements. Slowly pull it out while pushing out with your muscles. There might be a bit of poop on the plug when you remove it, so make sure you have tissues ready.
Always wash your hands after inserting your plug to avoid cross-contamination or spreading bacteria from the anus to the vagina, which can cause infection.
Wash the plug after removal with soap and hot water and let it dry.
Once you feel more comfortable using your plug, feel free to
experiment, get creative, and use it with your partner.
There are tons of ultra-sensitive nerve endings in your rectum, and,
depending on how you use the plug, you can discover an entirely new dimension of ecstasy and pleasure.
Some of our favourite ways to use butt plugs:
Leave it in for double penetration during self-pleasure.
Butt plug and clitoral stimulation.
Use it simultaneously with your partner when receiving or giving oral sex.
Leave it in during intercourse or mutual masturbation.
Using butt plugs can narrow the vagina, which may mean heightened stimulation for both partners during penetrative sex.
What Is the best butt plug for me?
Choosing a butt plug will depend on your experience and comfort level. We always recommend starting with the smaller size before trying larger sizes.
READ OUR GUIDE TO ANAL PLEASURE HERE
Our BONBON plugs come in three sizes and in three colours.
We designed them with a wide base that stops them from slipping all the way in.
